If you are a single mom, regardless of the path that brought you here, this is for you..so you can know that you do not have to walk alone.
For all of the women who share the role of single mom, including me, we belong to a very large group of women who share the same heart, the same struggles and the same needs.
In learning how to be single, sometimes we attempt to attach ourselves to another human being, hoping they will be able to meet our deepest needs and heal our hurts. We miss the feeling that we are part of a whole. In our “neediness” we think another human being might hold the answer. So we reach out to relationships that only pull us farther away from where we need to be and bring more hurt into our lives.
The most important truth I can share with you is this. . .
There is someone who I have fallen in love with. I am committed to Him and love Him with all my heart. I am not alone anymore. He meets every need I could ever have. He never leaves my side. He is faithful. He is strong enough to protect and provide for my children and myself. Spending time with Him every day has become my greatest joy. I have learned that I can trust Him in any situation. Regardless of how impossible the world may see my plight, He can bring blessing from it. He has shown me that the greatest blessings in my life have come from my greatest difficulties.
He is my God and my Savior Jesus Christ. He loves me. He loves you. There is nothing we have done or will do that can change that love. We have made mistakes, we have made wrong choices. Those we loved have made mistakes and wrong choices. These do not limit God and His power to restore. His grace and mercy are greater than our weakness. For it is in our greatest struggles that we see Christ. Only His pain on the cross is enough to save us from our greatest pain.
When we get to the place in our lives when there is no one else, no place else to go, nothing left to believe, Jesus is there waiting. His arms are stretched out to us in love and forgiveness. We can find Jesus in His Word, in the books we read, in the music we listen to, and always in our heart. I found that after years of wondering if I could ever be welcomed back into God's arms, I was the one who had looked away. All I had to do was look to Him. My eyes met His and He was right there with me. No human being could ever be as close.
"There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus."
Romans 8:1
There is someone who I have fallen in love with. I am committed to Him and love Him with all my heart. I am not alone anymore. He meets every need I could ever have. He never leaves my side. He is faithful. He is strong enough to protect and provide for my children and myself. Spending time with Him every day has become my greatest joy. I have learned that I can trust Him in any situation. Regardless of how impossible the world may see my plight, He can bring blessing from it. He has shown me that the greatest blessings in my life have come from my greatest difficulties.
He is my God and my Savior Jesus Christ. He loves me. He loves you. There is nothing we have done or will do that can change that love. We have made mistakes, we have made wrong choices. Those we loved have made mistakes and wrong choices. These do not limit God and His power to restore. His grace and mercy are greater than our weakness. For it is in our greatest struggles that we see Christ. Only His pain on the cross is enough to save us from our greatest pain.
When we get to the place in our lives when there is no one else, no place else to go, nothing left to believe, Jesus is there waiting. His arms are stretched out to us in love and forgiveness. We can find Jesus in His Word, in the books we read, in the music we listen to, and always in our heart. I found that after years of wondering if I could ever be welcomed back into God's arms, I was the one who had looked away. All I had to do was look to Him. My eyes met His and He was right there with me. No human being could ever be as close.
"There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus."
Romans 8:1
Thank you for this wonderful word today. I am 25 years old, single and 28 weeks pregnant. The father and I were dating for a while, but he left me because I am "too involved" with my church. I have felt very discouraged lately and alone. You definitely lifted my spirits today and I thank you!
ReplyDeleteThank you so much Mary. Your words are an encouragement to me. I am so thankful that my words provided encouragement to you. Feel free to keep in touch as time goes by. I know God will bless you wonderfully as you go forward in your life as a mom.
ReplyDeleteWhat perfect timing this is for my life though written 1.5yrs ago. Though I've been going at it alone for the past 4 years with a divorce looming in the courts, I often find myself in the state of "seeking" trying to catch a glimpse of a man that I can attach to as you say and become a father figure to my beautiful 7 yo daughter, I disappoint myself for I know who the true lover of my soul is. But I am thankful that my Heavenly Father has foiled my efforts until His perfect timing.
ReplyDeleteI know how this feels. I keep bejng taught the same lesson....only Jesus
DeleteI have been here still am going through this. It comes down to the same lesson... only Jesus
DeleteThank you for this post - I needed it today! My challenges today are the fact that my kids just want to be a part of their dad's life - and though he says he wants that too, his actions speak otherwise. Seeing your words of encouragement, that faith will provide for my children - it's immeasurable. Thank you!!!
ReplyDeleteI thank God for your blog. Reading this was such a blessing! So much I have made this my homepage. Your words speak my prayers to God...and thats that he fills the need and void i once looked for others to fill. And to my fellow sisters God restores...I thank Him for his Grace. Be blessed.
ReplyDeleteTo my sister above I am 26 raising two blessings. ....your childs may have walked in but watch God walk in and provide everything you need and comfort you. Hold your head high...dont be discouraged God is with you
I totally agree with this. However, God wants us to have another half. Which is why he created a woman for a man. So, while still being faithful, don't forget to not beat yourself up just for wanting a companion...all in God's timing my loves...
ReplyDeleteI've raised my 17 year old son alone with God's help and he has turned out amazing! God has blessed him with going to college on a full ride scholarship!!! I'm so blessed!!! Keep your head up ladies, it's so worth it!!!
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed and appreciate these words. I have been divorced longer than I was married and if anyone would have told me I would be a single mother of a 1 year old in 2003 and divorced in 2004 I would not have beieved it. I was raised in a christian home and after the break up, I was completely bankrupt in every area of my life. Today, my daughter will be 16 in June, I have not been the perfect parent, but God has kept me and He has kept her. Sometimes it just takes longer to find your stride again in life. I knew God was there but I don't know Him like He knows me and that is my desire. I cannot undo what has been done but I can become greater as a result of. Thank you for the encouragement.
ReplyDeleteIt is now 2021 and I’m just now seeing some of your comments. Thank you for responding to my words. I’m so thankful you were encouraged by them! Praying God is continuing to provide snd you can look back snd see his care for you!
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